I think it’s important to remind ourselves of the alternative to where we are.
We can always go back to where we were.
Whether that is working night shift, or 12 hours shifts doing something we hate. It could be traveling too much and being away from your family. It could be a lot of things.
When doubt enters the mind it’s always a good idea to have your best defense ready. One of the best defensive actions are to remember the alternative to where you are.
Remember where you were last year, remember where you were five years ago, is that where you want to be?
What’s the alternative?
Whenever there’s more than one person involved in a massive decision things get more complicated. You have to be able to communicate the bigger reason behind massive action when more people are involved. In fact, if you are able to communicate that effectively more people can help you get to where you want to be even faster. Having a support group to build your dream is a must.
Remember transformation takes time.
We all have family pressure, we all have friend pressure, and we all have internal pressure. Sometimes these pressures build up, sometimes things aren’t happening quickly enough (usually for them). It’s important to remind the closest people to you what the alternative is to what you are doing.
For example, you may be starting a business and people are pushing you to monetize too quickly, people are pushing you to launch inferior products just to make a quick buck.
Your meaning for doing something has to go beyond a short term product, and “stuff”.
You need something that is so deeply ingrained in you that it’s dying to come out, and, you’ll give it away.
A complete willingness to help others, to serve others. To want to make the world better, to impact the world. And it has nothing to do with you, it has everything everything to do with everyone else.
Gary Vaynerchuk talks about a concept he calls Giving Without Expectation and what it means is that you need to give 51% away in any relationship. You’re always giving more than what the other person is. If you take this concept you will win in the long term.
But, the problem is you want it now. We live in a time when we can have answers in milliseconds, post our message to the world in 140 characters, and buy whatever we want for a low monthly payment.
Think about 20 years ago (and let me help you visualize):
If you are:
- 30 you were 10
- 40 you were 20
- 50 you were 30
- 60 you were 40
- 70 you were 50
- 80 you were 60
You get the point.
Do you have more experiences than you did 20 years ago? Do you know more?
If you go back 20 years ago would you tell that person some tips on how to do things better?
The reality is in 10 years, 20, 30 all this won’t matter, but, the time will happen. Next year will happen regardless of whether you are ready or not.
What’s going to matter is you looking back and realizing one of two things; I’m happy with where I’m at because of what I did or I should’ve done this, I should’ve done that, and live with the regret.
We all have obligations, but what’s even worse than not living up to someone else’s expectation is disappointing yourself in the long run.
This is a marathon, not a sprint, don’t worry about getting rich quick in the next month, three months, six months, think about being wealthy in life. That’s a 10, 20, 50 year commitment.
Tony Robbins says:
Many people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in a decade.
Think about what you can do in 10 years, don’t worry about the things you’re dealing with right now those are short term.
Money; is short term, house; short term, “stuff”; is short term, build an empire of greatness. Build and develop yourself every single day.
Remember, you could always go back to where you were but what’s the fun in that?
What’s the fun in 12 hour shifts, night shifts working for someone that you don’t even know, working for something that you don’t care about, doing something that you don’t love?
What’s the story that you are going to tell your kids, your spouse, your grandchildren?
Are you going to say you built something and supported something that impacted the world, or sacrificed your dreams for a mortgage payment and 60k per year.
I’m talking to the people that want to build something themselves I’m talking to the people that want to forge the future and impact the world in a big way.